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Katie Daley's avatar

I love this, and I love H and K, their friendship-sistership. The writing is so vivid and beautifully paced that it sends electrical currents through me. “Do you exist, or did I invent you?” is a brilliant and poetic question for the ages. Brava to you both!

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Deborah Way's avatar

That Q is everything ❤️

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Kasia Nikhamina's avatar

Thank you so much for reading! “Friendship-sistership” — yes! Exactly.

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Cindy Eastman's avatar

Enchanting and tragic. I love "Do you exist? Or did I invent you." Heart-rending. ♥️

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Deborah Way's avatar

Yes yes yes ❤️❤️❤️

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Malena Watrous's avatar

An amazing essay-and such a friendship. I went to Barnard and could picture you both in the dorms, collaging walls and getting ready for formals. You brought H to the page for us.

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Deborah Way's avatar

I could too ❤️

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Kasia Nikhamina's avatar

And thank you so much for reading!

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Kasia Nikhamina's avatar

❤️ What year were you? We were 2007. There is so much to remember and write about that time…

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Malena Watrous's avatar

I was earlier by a decade - 1997 graduate. But I taught there in 2020 and it was weirdly not that changed!

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Elizabeth Stone's avatar

choked me up a bit, in the best way.

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Deborah Way's avatar

❤️❤️❤️

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Kasia Nikhamina's avatar

Thank you - sending a hug!

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Tina Sado's avatar

Beautiful tribute to a beautiful friend.

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Deborah Way's avatar

💓💓💓

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Liz's avatar

Beautiful, Kasia, as is everything you write! No extraneous language. It's all necessary.

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Kasia Nikhamina's avatar

Hey Liz! So nice to see you here. Thanks so much for reading and for your encouragement over the years. XO

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Deborah Way's avatar

Thank you for reading 💓

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Shari's avatar

I’m in awe of your ability to place us into your loving sisterhood with your beautiful words! Sorry for the loss of your Hobbs.

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Deborah Way's avatar

💓💓💓

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Alexandra Dane's avatar

This will stay with me for a long time. Thank you for sharing your friendship story.

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Deborah Way's avatar

The story and those beautiful eyes ❤️

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Kasia Nikhamina's avatar

She haunts me. A Wuthering Heights feeling.

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Kasia Nikhamina's avatar

Thanks so much, Alexandra. That's what I was hoping for - to keep her memory strong! ❤️

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Jamie C McAloon's avatar

Touching, tender and full of emotion. Loved it.

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Deborah Way's avatar

Thank you for reading 💓

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Rebecca Gummere's avatar

Gorgeous, gorgeous, gorgeous.

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Deborah Way's avatar

💯 ❤️

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Miss DP's avatar

What a loss that was for you and her loved ones, but to have known her, what a blessing.

Tragic loss guts us, but thankfully you have such a warm and lovely memory of her. Hold tight to that.

She was lovely. Thanks for this sweet tribute to her.

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Kasia Nikhamina's avatar

Thanks so much for reading! Makes me happy my story continues to reach new readers. Let's all hug our friends today!

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Halina Fitzpatrick's avatar

I was so swept up by your beautiful story of friendship that I almost forgot that I was reading from The Keepthings. It was so painful to hear how she died.

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